Women's'
response to stimulation is quite different than men's. Most men don't
have a clue about the female body and before you start learning erotic
massage techniques we invite you to visit "The Vagina
Gallery". Women have two different types of orgasms - either through
clitoral stimulation or G-Spot stimulation. Because women can experience
multiple orgasms and sustain a high state of arousal for a much longer
period of time the basic approach to a woman's erotic massage is much different.
Time and intensity are the keys. Always begin with gentle stroking
of the breasts, inner thigh, and periods of just holding. No form
of clitoral stimulation or vaginal penetration feels good unless a woman
is in a fairly high state of arousal. Which is the major complaint
most women have about their sexual partner - NOT ENOUGH TOUCHING AND FOREPLAY.
Women also have very definite opinions about what feels good so communication
also becomes key. A full bladder can often interfere with orgasm
so make sure your female partner visits the rest room before beginning
the massage. The absolute "coupe de grais" for the ultimate female
massage is a vibrator - visit the "Vibe on Vibrators"
to understand how they deliver the ultimate experience and see all the
different products that are available. Female Massage Techniques
have been divided into external and internal stimulation with the basic
premise is that you begin the massage with external and Clitoral Stimulation
and finish with G-Spot stimulation. Remember to use lots of lubrication
but only water-based on women.
External Stimulation
"Ready,
Set, Go"
Begin
with a light, gentle caress that barely touches the inner thighs and pubic
hair. Don't go much further until your partner's pelvis begins to arch
upwards.
"Exploration"
Place
the one lip between your thumb and forefinger, clasping it at the base
where it attaches to the main part of your partner's body. Then run your
fingers (or fingertip) from the lower to upper part of the lip, as though
you were tracing one side of a parenthesis. Repeat this as long as your
partner's feedback is positive. You can also make an upside down horseshoe
pattern with a fingertip by starting at the lower inside part of one lip
and finishing at the lower inside part of the other.
"Tap
Dancing"
Place
the palm of your hand the mound where her pubic hair is, and rest your
fingers lightly on her vaginal lips. Rest your thumb on her opposite thigh.
Lightly but firmly press your palm onto her mons and begin to move your
hand in a tiny circular motion. You palm should not slide too much over
her skin during this process. Instead, her skin should move underneath
it. Repeat this process until you have done ten circles. You then raise
your fingers and lightly tap her vaginal lips about once a second until
you have given her ten taps. Please note that these are light taps, not
spanks. After giving the taps, rest your hand for five to ten seconds.
Then repeat the circles, then repeat the taps, then rest again, then repeat
the circles.
"Finger
On the Hood"
Given
how the clitoral area is often more sensitive than any single part of the
penis, you don't want the rough skin of your fingers rubbing across it.
Gently push and pull on the clitoral hood and labia.
"Vibrator"
Vibrators
generally work best on or near the clitoris. If the vibration is too intense,
switch to a lower speed or put a cloth between the vibrator and her clitoris.
It's OK to let your partner hold the vibrator. You can also use a vibrator
clitorally at the same time vaginal penetration is being performed.
Internal Stimulation
"The
Tease"
With
one finger tickle her vaginal opening as lightly as possible and the rotate
around the entire opening.
"First
Insert"
Try
inserting your first two fingers into her, then arch your thumb back 'hitch-hiker'
style and thrust in until your thumb rests against the clitoris. You can
use a variety of thrusting and twisting motions in this position. You can
also vibrate your entire hand or use a vibrator against your hand.
"Push
Here"
Gently
insert one finger deeply into her vagina and, when she's ready, insert
a second. Then take your thumb and place it against her anus. Don't insert
it. Instead, press there while you move your fingers."
"Cervix
Massage"
The
cervix can usually be found in the upper rear part of the vagina. The cervix
feels like a little dome of tissue. Carefully stimulate the area surrounding
the cervix.
"G-Spot
Massage"
With
your well lubricated first and second fingers together make rhythmic gestures
inside the vagina working to the G-Spot. You can recognize the G-Spot
because of the change in tissue feel. Now rub the G-Spot in a circular
fashion. Generally, it's the pads of your fingers which are pressing into
her G-Spot. Then begin by pressing very firmly on the G-Spot - press, release,
press! There are vibrators specifically designed for G-Spot stimulation
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investment.
"The
Conclusion"
It
is not necessary that you try and use every massage technique during one
massage. Talk with your partner and find out which motions produces the
most pleasureable sensations. The conclusion of any massage can be with
orgasm, mutual stimulation or intercourse. Contrarery to popular
belief women don't usually have orgasms from intercourse alone. However,
a woman is MUCH more likely to experience orgasm during intercourse if
she has had one or more orgasms (especially of the G-Spot variety) before
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